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Life is filled with so much unpredictability – a journey of straight roads,bumps,hills and valleys.We never know where the next crossroad will take us. The sound grounding in my Judeo – Christian faith has enabled me to hold on steadily in spite of it all.

The purpose of writing this blog is to give survival tips just in case you or someone you know might be faced with the loss of a spouse.

I am hoping you will learn how to fight for self and those who depend on you to get back up again. We either swim or drown when faced with Loss. It might sound harsh, life is about the survival of the fittest. Just taking one day at a time is basically your starting point.

The effectual power to Command Change🌈❤️

Streams in the Desert

Believing Prayer

Peter was kept in prison: but prayer [instant and earnest prayer] was made for him. – Acts 12:5

Peter was in prison awaiting his execution. The Church had neither human power nor influence to save him. There was no earthly help, but there was help to be obtained by the way of Heaven. They gave themselves to fervent, importunate prayer. God sent His angel, who aroused Peter from sleep and led him out through the first and second wards of the prison; and when they came to the iron gate, it opened to them of its own accord, and Peter was free.

There may be some iron gate in your life that has blocked your way. Like a caged bird you have often beaten against the bars, but instead of helping, you have only had to fall back tired, exhausted and sore at heart. There is a secret for you to learn, and that is believing prayer; and when you come to the iron gate, it will open of its own accord. How much wasted energy and sore disappointment will be saved if you will learn to pray as did the Church in the upper room! Insurmountable difficulties will disappear; adverse circumstances will prove favorable if you learn to pray, not with your own faith but with the faith of God (Mark 11:22, margin). Souls in prison have been waiting for years for the gate to open; loved ones out of Christ, bound by Satan, will be set free when you pray till you definitely believe God. —C. H. P.

Emergencies call for intense prayer. When the man becomes the prayer nothing can resist its touch. Elijah on Carmel, bowed down on the ground, with his face between his knees, that was prayer—the man himself. No words are mentioned. Prayer can be too tense for words. The man’s whole being was in touch with God, and was set with God against the powers of evil. They couldn’t withstand such praying. There’s more of this embodied praying needed. —The Bent-knee Time

“Groanings which cannot be uttered are often prayers which cannot be refused.” —C. H. Spurgeon

https://www.youdevotion.com/streams/december/30

The Soulmate principle?

MY SOULMATE

The Soulmate principle is finding that special person and only person you want to build your family and future with. From a Judeo-Christian faith, it is the connection made between a male and a female. This starts with courting and then marriage.

The emphasis here is on the importance of relationships, family and marriage for personal growth and wellbeing.

 A Soulmate is one who just gets you. One who has similar core values and ethics as you do. A connection of minds, a mutual respect, mutual commitment, unconditional love, and a total understanding.

Finding your Soulmate will eventually propel you to Marriage. Every relationship will have its challenges (as its two flawed individuals uniting as one).

The stronger you develop the bond of commitment and learn how to manage the different elements that surface in intimate relationships the greater the success of riding the storms. I am a great advocate of Pre-Marriage coaching as it aims to save your marriage before it starts.

The period of the pandemic has made us more appreciative of human connections, the natural way God has created us to connect with each other.

if it is in your vision to meet your Soulmate discover more on the links below.

https://coaching.walkingoutofwidowhood.net/v1blnh5six

www.businessandmarriagecoaching.co.uk

How to initiate a relationship with God!

CONNECT TO GOD OUR LIFE SOURCE!!

One of the keys to an integrated life is to have a faith in a Bible believing God that allows us in his power to live an abundant and boundless life with no sorrow. The question is how do you initiate a relationship with the God of the Bible?

1, a. You need to open your mind to belief that there is a creator outside yourself who created the earth and created us to produce after his own kind.

b. We are created by God, first class as we carry his DNA. You are created by God, created for purpose, creativity and productivity.

c. This is who our God is. Getting to know who this God is grants you a deeper understanding in your purpose and drive, when doing your life projects. You gain a greater conviction that you can do Greater despite the huge pitfalls you encounter.

 Life without this source makes us empty, void and always searching for the next adrenaline fix that lasts temporarily, until the next one is found.

2, Start by owning a Bible (eBook or hard copy) God’s instruction manual that teaches and guides you on foundational timeless truths on how to navigate all aspects of life.

You can read or listen to the word of God. Read it out loud, confess it to self and meditate on the content.

*Start with ‘The Book of Psalms’ = made of Prayers.  The Book of Proverbs are full of sound wisdom and knowledge. Purchase a simple version of the Bible e.g. The English Standard Version.

3, Practice how to pray by speaking naturally to God –asking for your day to go well and thank the lord daily by writing in a journal at least 5 things you are grateful for. This increases your optimism. (Hope and Joy)

4, Seek daily to hear or listen to an audible version of the Bible in your home environment. Most basic smart phones give various audio apps.

5.a. Find a church in which to worship with other believers – it must have a 5-fold ministry. This is Teachers, Evangelists, Prophets, Apostles and Pastors. Google find a Church near me!

*Also commit your life to the faith. (The invitation is made regularly after teachings)

b. Try to pray consistently for a month – perhaps when you have just woken up. This will form for you a good habit.

The key is as you grow a consistent prayer life you will start to naturally ask God in prayer to direct you to the right church/places and people.

Consistency and persistence in Prayer, reading and meditation will grow your faith, especially when you can start to measure answers to prayers you receive. 

*Meditation means focusing on specific words in the Bible, reflecting on their meaning in the context of the love of God. Verbal repetition of the word from the Bible lifts your spirit, and it gives stronger clarity and healing on distorted perceptions on issues.

6. Attending weekly church services will strengthen your faith, you will hear Biblical teachings on how to walk stronger in your Christian journey. This will grow your understanding of foundational principles in the Bible.

7.As your faith grows so will a natural need to solve problems for some of God’s children. (Anyone you can help safely)

Find what you are good at, hone it to excellent competence and use this to help people – in church and community. This adds a special dimension to your walk of faith and relationship growth with God.

As you grow your faith in God, other areas of your life will start to find meaning and direction. The other essential 5Fs – Faith, Family, finance, friendship and fitness will start to unravel and grow.

The Bible states categorically the Judeo-Christian faith guarantees you wealth (wholeness) without the burden of sorrow.  

Your faith lays the foundation for other elements that balance your life. For further information and the need of a Coach chat with me for 15 mins at –

http:businessandmarriagecoaching.co.uk

OPPORTUNITY CALLS

What do you really feel inside?

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Most people say I want change but say it with their lips but it does not resonate with their souls. You may look beautiful and physically fit on the outside, yet your soul may be broken and spirit empty.

If your physic (external appearance) is strong but your soul and spirit is weak your physic may not always be strong enough to resist the seducer who comes only to deceive.

 To generate successful change, we have to be holistically whole. This means being whole in mind, body and soul. Do you believe in a creator or God who made you with his DNA? If you do our brokenness and wounds are healed completely from this source alone. So, does your absolute wholeness come from this.

Widow, widower or the bereft, after two or three years of grief you have to exercise your will over your flesh to consciously and courageously decide to start thinking of finding your way out of the pain to redefine what you want for your future. You can still be grieving yet still decide in your will first, then your actions what you want for your future.

Where there are no vision people perish Hosea. 4:6(ESV). If you do not envisage change in your mind, this means you may remain stuck in your past for years, in a drought, with no visible growth and no gradual healing. The longer you stay in it the harder it is to make that leap.

The way to do this practically and effectively will be to get a friend or use a Coach to draw out of you what direction you would like your future to go. Performing growth exercises by a Coach will gradually get you to your desired goal. 

Coaching is the act of being directed on how to draw out your strengths to rebuild and engineer your desired goal. Find one you connect with and decide to do the work with that individual – you will start to enjoy it when you commit to it. Engage one who applies timeless principles from a biblical lens as a point of reference. Change is normally permanent from this framework when you commit whole heartedly.

 We need to get help especially when we find ourselves at the cross roads of life and cannot direct the cause ourselves. It is not about saving face and keeping up external appearances.

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When emotionally vulnerable we sometimes disguise this in presenting a more than perfect external appearance. This makes us prey to those who say they love you but have ulterior motives. We are more vulnerable to these lies when we are emotionally empty but need this hollowness to be filled by another. 

While if you adopt a plan of action and seek good people to assist you to implement this, you gradually grow stronger emotionally. The additional bonus of working with another person propels you to succeed as we are born to connect naturally with another human being.

The world places too much of an emphasis on outward appearance and less or nothing on the inside. The strength of our inner Soul and Spirit impacts on how we navigate our world and succeed in it.

When seeking to move forward in life, may it be dating, marriage, business or a general lifestyle change, the stronger you build your spirit the more defined do your spiritual qualities become, the higher the chances of success.

Very often I hear of women being scammed on line by evil suitors promising heaven and earth, and how we easily succumb to such false promises, even giving away our hard-earned cash. The more seasoned your spirit and soul are the more in tuned you will be to identify evil prey

 In believing in a creator or God makes you know so well that no individual can meet all your needs. Lacking faith in a creator makes your soul and spirit quite weak and vulnerable.

Only God can fill completely that gaping hole you are looking for another individual to fill. Rogues can spot your emotional vulnerability from miles away and exploit it.

The spirit to decern good from evil is acquired by developing a faith in a true and real God that develops your soul and spirit. 

The lord looks at the inside of man not on outward appearance. This needs to be applied to self and when deciding on who to date. The average looking guy with strong spiritual qualities may be the one to prefer than the handsome, wavy and slick haired male with an enticing tongue but no spiritual qualities.

The world is quick to convince us of it being fine to wallow for years in grief and stagnation while they are moving on successfully with their lives.

 The secret is to find solutions and help in navigating the immense hiccups of life. What makes life much easier is being aligned to the creator of our universe =God who enables you to make all things beautiful in time.

*Your Soul can be wounded when your emotions have been impacted by loss, disappointment, childhood challenges, mental ill health, relationship breakdown, financial loss, natural disasters, economic misplacement, sexual exploitation and extreme poverty to name a few. The scars left by these need healing, recovery and restoring. 

‘With his stripes we are healed’ Isaiah 53:5b

To learn more about my journey read my other pieces on this Blog.

For further information go to my webpage at:

 Find me at businessandmarriagecoaching.co.uk

THAT HIDDEN VOICE!

Do you wonder what others around you might say if you step out to engineer change? How do you combat the voice that convinces you of being fine just the way you are? Are you tied to fear, guarding self-image and living in an unconscious tirade of self-deception? Or do you not know where to begin a change? What can be the worst that can happen?

When we want to engineer change there is an inner voice that tries to convince you of being alright where and how you are. The mind then becomes afraid to move past these thoughts. So, your physical body wants to move but your mind is unconsciously telling it to stay where there is comfort.

The worst deterrent to our success to change is self-deception. Because you have stayed in Egypt so long you convince yourself that you are doing well. You have been on your own so long that you start to convince yourself that you are fine and you do not need someone to share your life with. Convinced your children and grandchildren fill you enough.

Are you middle aged, single, divorced or widowed and have been out of a relationship for Years? My question to you is What do you do when children grow up and move away? Or   your grandchildren grow or decide to live across the other side of the world? Or you are now working less restricted hours, self-employed, friends have moved on as they do and you have all this extra time to fill.

Do you have an underlying fear of uncertainty of what you will do with all this free time, with no one to share your life with? We live very long life’s now – hopefully with better healthcare and more disposable income. Who do you share your life with?

The reverse could be you are just hitting 28/30 years of age, your career is at its peak. You are just finally realising that life would be better with someone special to share it with. That voice convinces you that you are fine and do not want a companion to upset the applecart. You deceive yourself with these thoughts because of a past bad experience of dating someone.

Perhaps you are now in a better place to define who you are and what you expect in a future partner/spouse and also can afford a coach to guide you away from the pitfalls.

It only takes talking to someone neutral and with a fresh perspective to get you thinking and changing your perception of personal relationship. From the creation of humanity, we are made to thrive in relationships – family, friends and with a soulmate. So, we always have a conscious or unconscious gaping hole emotionally when our relationship needs are not met or not fulfilling.

After 20 weeks or so of the lockdown and easing of it in the UK it has been a time when we are forced to take a personal look at our life’s holistically at things that have never worked and need changing and things that can improve. So, if you are ready and courageous open yourself to a new personal connection now. When there is a desire the next thing is to act on it.

For a 15min chat talk to me at www.businessandmarriagecoaching.com

we save you a lot of time and guide you in how to use timeless principles to accomplish your success.

For further practical insight check out my blog at how-to-find-a-soulmate.com

Courage enables you to overcome pending fear of making that change.  The greatest story we can ever give is when we move from a restricted life to one of victory.