I have worked and empowered many in the field of Mental Health for over 20 years.I did not know at the start of my loss this will be an invaluable resource to draw on.The knowledge / information l gave support groups to facilitate ,equip,empower and others became my source of reference.
I recalled that the first thing to do when your body goes into any form of shock is to find ways to nourish, maintain your health and body.l would need it at its peak, both physically and mentally to perform and manage the present and the future.
For Mental strength l drew solely on my faith,literally calling out to my Heavenly God/Creator to equip and empower me to stand.Some will define it as the spirit in them,that enables you to survive any trial.
I prayed for 7 days and after l felt my inner soul was equipped to face laying my late husband to rest.Praying for me meant reading the words in the Bible and repeating words from it that affirmed me and shifted my fears and doubts.I also fasted in this period – only able to from 12 midnight to 12noon,drinking just water and fruits.Some will call this a detox.
I am signing off now join me next time to learn how we are able to hope and love in spite of the most difficult loss.
My late husband passed away on Boxing Day 2013.It started as a normal day.We had lunch and we were winding down for the day.A sudden thump on the floor,looked and it was my late husband on the floor,in cardiac arrest.
I held a first Aid Certificate for work for over 15 years never used my CPR skills until then. I just went into auto pilot and administered it on him.While someone else called for an ambulance.The ambulance seemed to take hours,apparently the response was within twenty minutes. Unfortunately as we now know he did not make it.When the news broke l cried uncontrollably – l was devastated.
So began my journey of widowhood.At that moment all seemed hopeless but l am still here stronger and more empowered to share my journey on my highs and lows,to give my tips on how to survive.Until next time keep your hope alive. There is always Hope after loss.
26th December 2019
It has been 6 years since I was widowed, and I feel stronger than ever before. This is the first anniversary I do not feel too nostalgic or sorrowful. I still miss my late husband but I have achieved so much in the last 6 years, that has redefined who I am as a woman.And that I have survived the most gruelling period,the first year of widowhood.
The aim of my blog is to inform and share how to survive widowhood especially in the first three years.Plus how to gradually gain strength to redefine the new you. I have always enjoyed writing since I was a younger woman.I have enhanced this skill since my loss. It has been an expressive tool, enabling a therapeutic emotional release and strengthening a natural flare I have.
I have learnt from this loss that you can survive widowhood no matter how bleak it looks when it happens.On hindsight I drew from inner strength I did not know I had. My driving force was also my children, as I felt my survival will enable me to be strong enough to assist them survive the loss of their father.
If you would like some tips on how to survive widowhood, follow me on this journey.
Signing off now, until next time!
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Life is filled with so much unpredictability – a journey of straight roads,bumps,hills and valleys.We never know where the next crossroad will take us. The sound grounding in my Judeo – Christian faith has enabled me to hold on steadily in spite of it all.
The purpose of writing this blog is to give survival tips just in case you or someone you know might be faced with the loss of a spouse.
I am hoping you will learn how to fight for self and those who depend on you to get back up again. We either swim or drown when faced with Loss. It might sound harsh, life is about the survival of the fittest. Just taking one day at a time is basically your starting point.
Hope deferred makes the heart sick,But a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12